About
As ambitious, professional women, resistance to support is common. This often leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck. I am on a mission to shift the mindsets of high-performing women around support so they can make their Empowered Ask™, stress less and thrive more.
About
As ambitious, professional women, resistance to support is common. This often leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck. I am on a mission to shift the mindsets of high-performing women around support so they can make their Empowered Ask™, stress less and thrive more.
Hi there, I’m Elayne.
I grew up in a home where support was generously given, but rarely accepted.
So, for as long as I can remember, I’ve viewed asking for and accepting support as a sign of weakness, neediness and failure. This ultimately resulted in years of anxiety, depression, and feeling unfulfilled as I struggled to figure things out on my own.
But once I learned how to make an Empowered Ask™ with confidence and accept support, my life transformed! Since then, as a coach and speaker, I’ve helped thousands of high-performing women through my podcast, Support is Sexy — which has more than one million downloads; my book, Get Over ‘I Got It’ (published by HarperCollins Leadership) – selected as a Forbes “Book of the Month;” and through more than 200 workshops I’ve facilitated across the U.S., in Spain, Morocco, South Africa and globally online.
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By learning my tools for accessing support, ambitious, high-performing women learn how to…
Develop durable skills to utilize day to day
Get unstuck and advance their careers
Ask for and accept support with confidence and ease
Now, through executive coaching, speaking and personal development training, I help Fortune 500 companies, small businesses and startups attract, support and retain high-performing women.
Having it all doesn’t mean doing it alone
Too many ambitious women suffer from what Elayne calls “I Got It!” Syndrome™ as they struggle to accomplish their goals and their ever-growing to-do list on their own. That mindset often leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck.
If you’re unapologetically ambitious, Elayne is cheering you on — but she’s also encouraging you to recognize how imperative it is that you stop struggling to do it all alone and get support. Otherwise you will never be truly fulfilled personally or professionally.
In her book, Get Over “I Got It” (HarperCollins Leadership), you’ll get real-word, actionable advice to help you build a solid network, enroll others in your vision and establish healthy boundaries to achieve success, stress less and accomplish more with support.
Praise for Get Over “I Got It”
In this irresistible call for connection and collaboration, Elayne challenges the patriarchal reverence for individual contribution: that our value depends on how well we can manage without anybody’s help. This book is an invitation for women (and men) to create a more powerful (and sexy!) system that leverages what matters most to humanity — our relationships.
“Elayne Fluker is the real deal and truly a force of nature. Her journey and story is one of a champion for self love, self empowerment, and reclamation of energy. Elayne’s writing feels like brunch with your best friend and a breakthrough therapy session all beautifully rolled into one grounded, raw, and insightful book.“Get Over I GOT IT” is a complete game changer and no doubt a book every goal-oriented woman should read at least once.”
This is a “must-read” on self-preservation and empowerment for woman in leadership! Elayne peels back the layers and goes deep by sharing her personal experience, as well as other influential women, who’ve benefited from seeking support, establishing boundaries, and taking off their capes to prioritize themselves.
As a recovering “I Got It” addict I greatly appreciate Elayne’s perspective and challenge to step away from constantly trying to prove ourselves and to step into relationship, connection, and support. I love how clearly she explains the risks of trying to do it all and the rewards of living a life with support and reminds us that this is not just a good idea but this is a necessary shift for women in order to live a healthy life. As we continue to fight for our rights, for equal pay and for equal representation in leadership I hope this book also galvanizes us to fight for our health and happiness. #supportissexy!
“I’m thrilled and heartened to see books like “Get Over, I Got It” being published, we’re all so tired, burned out (and quite frankly bored) by the old school mindset of ‘hustle harder’, ‘lean in’ and ‘grind it out’. Elayne nails the concept that rest and support is a source of strength, not weakness – and the dire (if not deadly) consequences of ignoring this sage advice. A must-read for womxn of all ages and life stages.”
“As a superwoman-in-recovery myself, I suffered the tyranny of the “independent woman” trope for too many years. Elayne Fluker’s Get Over “I Got It” was the book I needed all that time. Elayne lays out a simple step-by-step pathway for tempering our ambition and drive with the more feminine superpowers of vulnerability, receptivity and softness–to magical effect. Reading this book you’ll discover how to ask for what you want (and deserve); see that burnout is avoidable and that it’s possible to keep your tank full; understand the value of surrounding yourself with a network of supportive women; and so much more. My friends, it’s time to trade the myth of independence for the promise of healthy interdependence–and Get Over “I Got It”shows us how.
Support is Sexy Podcast with Elayne Fluker
Hear 500+ inspiring women share how H.E.L.P.™ changed their lives, and learn how it can transform your life, too
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Sis, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: Dr. Adia Gooden Tells You Why
Elayne Fluker speaks to Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist who firmly believes that there is nothing wrong in asking for help, especially as a Black woman.
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How to Follow Your Passion with Black in Tulum Founder Nubia Younge
We talk to Black in Travel founder Nubia Younge and find out about her journey, her mission, and what’s next.
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How to Trust Your Head, Heart and Hoohah When It Comes to Love with Relationship Coach Laurie Gerber
Laurie Gerber tells Elayne Fluker about how she fell in love with coaching and how she began the journey.
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806: Celebrity Trainer Mark Jenkins Shares Insider Secrets for Physical and Mental Fitness
I dive in with my special guest and good friend Mark Jenkins, who has more than 40,000 of fitness training, has worked with celebrities, and how he specializes in the transformation not just of your body, but of your mind.