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As ambitious, professional women, our resistance to support leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck. I am on a mission to shift your mindset around support and help you make Empowered Asks™, stress less and thrive more.

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As ambitious, professional women, our resistance to support leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck. I am on a mission to shift your mindset around support and help you make Empowered Asks™, stress less and thrive more.

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Hi there, I’m Elayne

I grew up in a home where support was generously given, but rarely accepted.

So, for as long as I can remember, I’ve viewed asking for and accepting support as a sign of weakness, neediness and failure. This ultimately resulted in years of anxiety, depression, and feeling unfulfilled as I struggled to figure things out on my own.

But once I learned how to make Empowered Asks™ and accept support, my life transformed! Since then, I’ve helped thousands of high-achieving women embrace support as a superpower for success and fulfillment through my podcast, Support is Sexy — which has more than one million downloads; through my book, Get Over ‘I Got It’ (published by HarperCollins Leadership) – selected as a Forbes “Book of the Month;” and through more than 200 workshops I’ve facilitated across the U.S., in Spain, Morocco, South Africa and globally online.

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 By learning my tools for accessing support, ambitious, high-achieving women learn how to…

Shift their perspective, stop struggling and start connecting

Embrace a possibility mindset and explore new opportunities

Courageously ask for and accept support with confidence and ease

Now, I deliver dynamic workshops, talks and programs for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses and startups to create psychologically safe cultures where high-achieving women stress less, thrive more and feel supported!

Get the  Book!

Having it all doesn’t mean doing it alone

Too many ambitious women suffer from what Elayne calls “I Got It!” Syndrome™ as they struggle to accomplish their goals and their ever-growing to-do list on their own. That mindset often leads to stress, anxiety and feeling stuck.

If you’re unapologetically ambitious, Elayne is cheering you on — but she’s also encouraging you to recognize how imperative it is that you stop struggling to do it all alone and get support. Otherwise you will never be truly fulfilled personally or professionally.

In her book, Get Over “IGot It” (HarperCollins Leadership), you’ll get real-word, actionable advice to help you build a solid network, enroll others in your vision and establish healthy boundaries to achieve success, stress less and accomplish more with support.

Praise for Get Over “I Got It”

In this irresistible call for connection and collaboration, Elayne challenges the patriarchal reverence for individual contribution: that our value depends on how well we can manage without anybody’s help. This book is an invitation for women (and men) to create a more powerful (and sexy!) system that leverages what matters most to humanity — our relationships.

Chantal Pierrat

Founder, Emerging Women

“Elayne Fluker is the real deal and truly a force of nature. Her journey and story is one of a champion for self love, self empowerment, and reclamation of energy. Elayne’s writing feels like brunch with your best friend and a breakthrough therapy session all beautifully rolled into one grounded, raw, and insightful book.“Get Over I GOT IT” is a complete game changer and no doubt a book every goal-oriented woman should read at least once.”

Maya Penn

Award-winning CEO, Eco-Entrepreneur

This is a “must-read” on self-preservation and empowerment for woman in leadership! Elayne peels back the layers and goes deep by sharing her personal experience, as well as other influential women, who’ve benefited from seeking support, establishing boundaries, and taking off their capes to prioritize themselves.

Nadia Lopez

Educator and Author, The Bridge to Brilliance

As a recovering “I Got It” addict I greatly appreciate Elayne’s perspective and challenge to step away from constantly trying to prove ourselves and to step into relationship, connection, and support. I love how clearly she explains the risks of trying to do it all and the rewards of living a life with support and reminds us that this is not just a good idea but this is a necessary shift for women in order to live a healthy life. As we continue to fight for our rights, for equal pay and for equal representation in leadership I hope this book also galvanizes us to fight for our health and happiness. #supportissexy!

Carissa Reiniger

Chief Executive Officer, Silver Lining

“I’m thrilled and heartened to see books like “Get Over, I Got It” being published, we’re all so tired, burned out (and quite frankly bored) by the old school mindset of ‘hustle harder’, ‘lean in’ and ‘grind it out’. Elayne nails the concept that rest and support is a source of strength, not weakness – and the dire (if not deadly) consequences of ignoring this sage advice. A must-read for womxn of all ages and life stages.”

Martine Resnick

Co-Founder, The Lola, a womxn's club and digital community

“As a superwoman-in-recovery myself, I suffered the tyranny of the “independent woman” trope for too many years. Elayne Fluker’s Get Over “I Got It” was the book I needed all that time. Elayne lays out a simple step-by-step pathway for tempering our ambition and drive with the more feminine superpowers of vulnerability, receptivity and softness–to magical effect. Reading this book you’ll discover how to ask for what you want (and deserve); see that burnout is avoidable and that it’s possible to keep your tank full; understand the value of surrounding yourself with a network of supportive women; and so much more. My friends, it’s time to trade the myth of independence for the promise of healthy interdependence–and Get Over “I Got It”shows us how.

Kelly Notaras

CEO of KN Literary Arts, Author of The Book You Were Born to Write

Support is Sexy Podcast with Elayne Fluker

Hear 500+ inspiring women share how H.E.L.P.™ changed their lives, and learn how it can transform your life, too

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Believe in the possibilities