In this episode of Support is Sexy, the author of Black Girl in Love (with Herself), Trey Anthony, reminds us that loving ourselves is not a job we can give to someone else! Trey gives tips from her book on how to create healthy relationships with ourselves, people in our lives, and even our money. Hear about why “you might want to cry about this” in this episode of Support is Sexy



Elayne Fluker

Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit Thank you for listening!



About our Guest:

Trey Anthony is a visionary creator who uses her unique blend of comedy, theater, motivational talk, and her own life experiences to inspire and uplift others. Trey is a professional speaker, lifestyle coach, producer, award-winning playwright, and author of the new Black Girl in Love (with Herself): A Guide to Self-Love, Healing, and Creating the Life You Truly Deserve.



Insight from this episode:

  • Sneak peek into Trey’s book including her exercises around money.
  • Trey’s inspiration behind her book Black Girl in Love with Herself.
  • How to get over the imposter syndrome and realize your worth.
  • Why telling our friends “Girl, you got this!” can be dangerous and how to be intentional about creating safe spaces.



Quotes from the show:

  • “We end up on the bathroom floor because we’re holding so much in, putting up this facade as a “strong Black woman.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #769
  • “I needed to really trace why I chose to give up the job of loving myself to someone else. When they stopped loving me, all of a sudden I didn’t know what to do with myself.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769
  • “At lot of times we find ourselves in things that are unhealthy for us because it reminds us of our childhood.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769
  • “Right at that moment, I didn’t need a pep talk. What I needed was permission to fall apart. And maybe not once, not twice, maybe three times, but continue to fall apart and have a safe space.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769
  • “I was thinking about negotiations, and I said, “Please pay me whatever you’ve paid a white male who has come in and done similar.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769
  • “Make people catch you loving yourself. So when they join you, you’re already loving yourself.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769



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Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry.

[Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]